Expectations are worthless. Yet everybody has them, not knowing how dangerous a thing it is. Expectations depress us, when things don’t turn out the way we expect it to. It makes us admit defeat when the smallest of obstruction blocks our way towards success. Expectations never do make a successful man. A carefree man is SO much more productive than one who has a threshold expectation to pass.
People expect so many things in daily life, some of them, even impossible. They expect everyone else to be kind to them, though they might be black of heart. They expect the most from their children, who strain away their lives, trying to match the expectations of their parents and elders. We expect a steep pay hike, and yet, no matter how high, our greed never is satisfied. We blame ourselves for our faults,when it is clear that our over-expectations caused them in the first place.
We expect good things to happen in life, yet we take not a minute of our lives to think about it. Life is full of ups and downs. You just cannot want to have a life that is always up, that would be the most boring thing in the world. Living such a life would be terrifying. We expect others to understand our shortcomings, yet we are insensitive to theirs. We blame people for human errors that we could have committed. We expect the world to be a better place, yet we do not look into ourselves, to see the mess there is.
Someone has wisely said, to change the world, change yourself. It is true. People talk of how they will change the world, or complain about how bad this world is, how they are being judged by their peers and how they want someone to come change this world, like a superhero. Yet, no one looks into themselves, they do not introspect, see?
They do not see the dark, grim and unforgiving place withing them, in their heart. Today’s fast-paced world has turned us into monsters, pre-occupied with things that should otherwise be, not to be dealt with. We are always in a hurry, wasting time on things that do not deserve the time, worrying about things that are negligible compared to our life, the greatest gift you and I and every person and being alive in this planet has received.
We have turned, as I say, into monsters, really. We have cut away our hearts from our bodies. We are humane no more, we are simply homo sapiens. Our heart has withered away by the hurry of modern life. What joy would it bring, if we were to slow down for a while, forget all our worries, forget all our appointments, forget everything in this world and stare at life?
To understand life is to understand what drives this world. You and I are part of it. The world we live in is imperfect. Yet, it is the perfect design for our world, because imperfection breeds life. It is in imperfection that perfection can be found, it is in imperfection that happiness can be uncovered. Yet, we do not. We blame the world for being imperfect. We do not slow down and marvel at the beauty of life.
If we did, we would understand how fragile this world is, how fragile our existence is. We would understand what it really means to be alive, to be a human. If only we could remain silent, the whole world, for 12 seconds, as Pablo Neruda wants, life would be so much better for all humans around the world. Pablo Neruda wrote in his poem, Keeping Quiet that he wanted the whole world to remain silent and introspect about their lives and what they were doing.
Yet, we still continue to live, without time for love, relations or the joys of life, consumed by anxiety, the fear of failure and the pressure to succeed in life, which is regarded by many as the pinnacle of life. Life is so much more than that, it is an amalgam of happy and sad moments, peppered with interesting moments we spend with our loved ones. Nobody really understands that, since to really understand true joy and happiness, one has to let go of his wishes and wants. One should also let go of his/her expectations. Expectations ruin everything. They make you look at things critically, in a negative way.
Life is something you get only once (unless you’re a cat!), and it’s not worth risking everything trying to please others who are not even interested in your well being or progress. Stop trying to make people happy. Identify the people who really want to see you succeed, they bring out the best in you. Remove all expectations, wants and wishes out of your life. Those are the things that are slowing you down, making you depressed and causing you to fail. Once you expect nothing, you get the zeal for life.
You learn to take life as it comes at you, you will become much more happy. No matter what happens, you will only receive it with arms wide open and a cheeky grin that borders on a smile. Life is too short to waste on silly things, you should try to live, not just exist. Enjoy each moment to the fullest.
I know how hollow these words might sound, since everyone out there says this. Yet no one really understands the simple truth behind it. There are several thoughts in my mind on why expectation ruin the nectar of life, but I have no more words to put them in.